At times I sit and wonder if people can only be happy for others when they themselves are happy. If in fact it is true that misery does indeed love company. I always tend to be the type of person to never believe that someone isn’t genuinely happy for me. But if they are miserable, they will spew negativity my way. At times I am very loud and outspoken. Well, actually most of the time I am. I‘m not one to … Read more →

At times I like to express myself with a collage of words and not necessarily a long, drawn out story. Sometimes the release effect feels so much greater. My life is forever evolving and every day I consider it a lesson learned. With every lesson I learn, I feel that I become a better person. With these lessons I can release what may hold me back from being the best person I can be. With this blog, I finally released what … Read more →

A couple of weeks ago I was sitting in my car and a Pitbull song, “International Love”, came on the radio. I bopped my head for a few minutes and remembered thinking, “Ah, this is nice and refreshing. Not such a degrading song to women and he’s actually giving shout outs to different places and countries.” That is until I heard the words “Down in DR, they’re looking for Visas”. Being of Dominican descent, this didn’t go over too well with … Read more →

Why is sexual expression so frowned upon in our community? Why shouldn’t I feel comfortable talking to my grandmother about how great I felt in bed last night? Or ask if she has ever truly enjoyed sex? As long as I can remember, my house has been an open forum when it comes to sex. The sex talk was given to me as soon as I became a “señorita”. As I got older and my household was filled with mostly adults, … Read more →

I am at a time in my life where things are slowly falling into place. It’s a time where my views on even the simplest things have been shifting. At times, I feel as if I’m looking around and seeing the same exact thing, day after day, week after week, and month after month. And yet here I stand, constantly trying something new. As women- as humans- I feel we evolve every day. We grow with the change of times and … Read more →

I think Ruperto Vanderpool should do the Dominican/Latino version of Chris Rock’s “Good Hair”. I come from a mullato family, going down the family tree to probably the beginning of time, as do many of us Latinas. I have it all in my family: blonde hair, green eyes, dark eyes, dark skin, and light skin. Our hair is as mixed as our gene pool is. Growing up there was nothing I hated more than combing my hair. It wasn’t until I … Read more →