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Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – “My Boyfriend Was Going To Propose To Me On V-Day But Broke Up With Me The Day Before.”

By SoLatina | April 22, 2012 - 1:01 pm |
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QUESTION: I was dating a marine and he broke up with me the day before Valentine’s Day. Little did I know he was going to propose to me on Valentine’s Day. I am so hurt because I thought everything was fine. But now it seems like he is playing me because he says he needs time to think. So my question is should I just let him go and move on? Or should I stay and wait until he decides? DR. … Read more →

Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – “Why Is My Mother-In-Law Treating My Son Differently Than My Daughters?”

By SoLatina | March 11, 2012 - 3:20 pm |
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QUESTION: I am a mother of three – a beautiful 3-year-old boy and newly added 5-month-old twin girls. Before my girls were born, my son was everything to the whole family. He was the first grandson to be born to both my mother and my boyfriend’s side of the family. Thus, he was spoiled. Once I had my girls, though, my mother-in-law changed. She mostly forgot about my son and focused on the girls. I saw it as, “OK, yeah, I’m … Read more →

Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – "Should I Tell My Children Their Father Is Dying?"

By SoLatina | September 22, 2011 - 2:23 am |
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QUESTION: Hi. I just found out that my kid’s father (who I’ve been separated from for 8 years) has cancer. He won’t tell me what kind of cancer or how advanced it is. All he tells me is that he’s terminally ill, he’s dying and that it’s none of my business. My concern is our kids, though. They are 9, 8 and 7. He doesn’t want me to tell them but I feel like they should be aware of what’s going … Read more →

Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – "Should I Tell My Boyfriend That I Was Raped?"

By SoLatina | August 20, 2011 - 12:02 am |
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QUESTION: Hello. I’m 23-years-old and I am a rape survivor. I was raped at the age of 16 and have gone through counseling. I am currently with the man of my dreams but he doesn’t know I was raped. I still have a hard time with large crowds without having my guard up. He jokes about it a lot and says I need to lighten up. My question is should I tell him I was raped? My mother says he does … Read more →

Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – "Should I Stay With My Cheating Husband To Save Our Family?"

By SoLatina | July 31, 2011 - 12:38 pm |
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Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – "Should I Stay With My Cheating Husband To Save Our Family?"

QUESTION: I’m in love with my kids’ dad but he has cheated on me and now has 3 kids going on 4. The 1st and 3rd are from me but the other two are from someone else. We are trying to work it out and move forward with our family. However, I’m still hurt and I’m not sure if I’ll ever completely be over him getting this other girl pregnant. But I can’t see myself without him. Am I doing the … Read more →

Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – "I Am With Someone Who Triggers My Anxiety. Help!"

By SoLatina | July 24, 2011 - 12:07 am |
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Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – "I Am With Someone Who Triggers My Anxiety. Help!"

QUESTION: I am with someone who I feel triggers my anxiety tremendously. Are they really triggering this or is it something I can control? DR. LORA’S ADVICE: Anxiety can be triggered by many things including places, smells, sounds, and even people. In order to control your anxiety around this person, it is important to know what it is about them that is triggering for you. Is this person high-strung and anxious themselves? Is this person mean or disrespectful to you? Has … Read more →

Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – “Should I Continue Taking Paxil If I Have Side Effects?”

By SoLatina | March 14, 2011 - 4:39 pm |
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QUESTION: Hello. I have been on Paxil 10mg for about a week now and I’m starting to feel some of the side effects. How long should I be on this med for? DR. LORA’S ADVICE: Since I am a psychologist and not a psychiatrist, I am not able to prescribe medication and this is therefore not my area of expertise. However, I can give you some general information about antidepressants, including the one you are taking, Paxil. In general, most regularly used antidepressants take … Read more →

Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – “How Can I Get Back On My Feet Financially?”

By SoLatina | February 22, 2011 - 5:27 pm |
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QUESTION: I don’t even know how to start but here goes. Today I got into a violent dispute with my husband. It started out as an argument but led into a violent dispute that ended up with cops almost arresting us. And this was all because of money. I’m not writing this because I want to beg for money but rather I’m just simply looking for encouragement. You see, two months ago I felt under the unemployed status before having my children. I was … Read more →

Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – “Sad & Angry About A ‘Missed Miscarriage’”

By SoLatina | February 10, 2011 - 3:29 pm |
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QUESTION: Hola. Recently I found out I had what is called a “missed miscarriage”. My mom and sister flew from NY to be with me for a few days to make sure I was “OK”. I guess I handled it pretty well, but lately it’s gotten bad. I am both sad and angry with the whole situation. I don’t like hearing about my friends’ pregnancies. Coincidentally, my two best friends, my husband’s best friend and my niece are all having babies either around my … Read more →

Psychologist Dr. Clara Lora – Maintaining A Relationship With A Boyfriend Who Is Leaving For The Military

By SoLatina | February 3, 2011 - 2:53 pm |
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QUESTION: I am 15 and my boyfriend is 19. I’m a freshman in high school. My boyfriend and I started having sex not too long ago. However, now he is leaving for the marines and, because of this, we haven’t been getting along. I don’t want to have a military lifestyle where all I do is receive letters and get phone calls that are going to last only 20 minutes. I love him so dearly, though. I don’t want to let him go! What … Read more →